— Edgar Degas, Combing The Hair
Long, black waves
Flow down and down and down.
Waves part with the teeth of a comb,
But come together again
Like the diasporic separation of my own
I watch the black and brown
Fall to the ground
Like leaves fall from their
Branches, from their
Roots, calling it quits before the
Winter and the world freeze over
Feeling the strength within each hair
The collective strength of my hair
Rolling it together, folding it inwards
Making it stronger and more resistant
To the questions we will face
The challenges we will overcome
My hair wrapped up
In layers of fabric
Each a representative for the sacrifices made
The mirror shows a friend
And a stranger
Someone unknown to you
Perhaps one you should fear
The dastaar I see as fabric of my identity
You have been taught to fear as a turban of resistance
A symbol of terror
A sign of pain
My keski has made you fear me
Knock me down and keep me down
Denying my lineage
And yet, I still rise
— Kes(ki):Resilience, Harleen Kaur
— Harnoor Suri
When we were younger // We thought everyone was on our side // Then we grew a little // And romanticized the time I saw // Flowers in your hair
See it takes a boy to live // Takes a man to pretend he was there
— The Lumineer, Flowers In Your Hair
Desi parents don’t say I love you, they express love through awkward gestures, and I think that’s beautiful. My father’s love language is a champi. Emptying half a bottle of hair oil in my head and massaging it until the lines on my forehead have smoothened out, and all my worries have vanished. I walk away, my hair slick with oil, complaining he always uses way too much. But how I truly feel, I will never let him know. For this emotionally restrictive love language, I have learnt from no one but him. Instead, I will be there again next week, with a bottle of hair oil and a head full of worries.
— Snigdha Bansal
— Xinyi Cheng
Who knows how to make love stay?
Tell love you want a momento of it and obtain a lock of its hair. Burn the hair in a dime-store incense burner with yin/yang symbols on three sides. Face southwest. Talk fast over the burning hair in a convincingly exotic language. Remove the ashes of the burnt hair and use them to paint a moustache on your face. Find love. Tell it you are someone new. It will stay.
— Tom Robbins, Still Life with Woodpecker
you ever look at a thing
you ain’t make, but become
a mother in the looking?
our blood is a thread tied
around my finger, tied
around her finger, that helps
me love. when her knees
swell, when her joints rust,
when her hair thins & flees
making a small continent
of skin on the side of her head,
i am witnessing her in whatever
state her body will allow.
Bismillah to the brain that
put my name next to her name
and said look at this girl your
whole life and know some kind
of peace. littlest bald spot, that no one
expected or knew how to love
you remind me of us.
i know Dalya’s thinking, how ugly
what a shame, but i wanna
build a mosque right then
& there. make an annual
hajj to that brown meadow.
slick as a coin. little planet
her awful, but her own.
— Angel Nafis, excerpt from Ode to Dalya's Bald Spot
"Not everything about my hair is a political statement. Sometimes I just want to have fun with it."
— Lebohang Lang Motaung (@lebohanglang)
When we asked women what female rage looks like to them, it was always Medusa, the snaky-haired monster of myth, who came to mind ... In one interview after another we were told that Medusa is 'the most horrific woman in the world' ... [though] none of the women we interviewed could remember the details of the myth.
— Mary Valentis and Anne Devane, Female Rage: Unlocking Its Secrets, Claiming Its Power
"Hair the color of lemons,'" Rudy read. His fingers touched the words. "You told him about me?"
At first, Liesel could not talk. Perhaps it was the sudden bumpiness of love she felt for him. Or had she always loved him? It's likely. Restricted as she was from speaking, she wanted him to kiss her. She wanted him to drag her hand across and pull her over. It didn't matter where. Her mouth, her neck, her cheek. Her skin was empty for it, waiting.
Years ago, when they'd raced on a muddy field, Rudy was a hastily assembled set of bones, with a jagged, rocky smile. In the trees this afternoon, he was a giver of bread and teddy bears. He was a triple Hitler Youth athletics champion. He was her best friend. And he was a month from his death.
Of course I told him about you," Liesel said."
— Markus Zusak, The Book Thief
— Itay Magen, Woman With Abstract Hair
Wert thou as young as I, Juliet thy love,
An hour but married, Tybalt murderèd,
Doting like me, and like me banishèd,
Then mightst thou speak, then mightst thou tear thy hair
And fall upon the ground, as I do now,
Taking the measure of an unmade grave.
— William Shakespeare, Act 3 Scene 3, Romeo and Juliet
His hair tells a story.
You see a little brown boy with long hair and you say it’s “just hair.”
He sees Native boys get their hair cut by their teachers in front of the class because “boys have short hair.”
He sees his all white baseball team pull him out of the boy’s bathroom and throw him in the gravel.
He sees them laughing and calling him a girl.
He sees none of the adults do anything about it.
He sees the grown men accost his family at a restaurant to tell them their “daughter” doesn’t belong in the men’s room.
He sees the grown men get mad and confused when they walk into the men’s room, too.
He sees the racism directed at him by children and adults alike.
He sees their words cut into a wound that is 500 years old.
He sees his ancestors.
He sees those who fought invasion and colonization.
He sees resilience.
He sees strength.
He sees resistance.
You look at him and you see “just hair.” He sees ALL of that.
— Kelly Tudor, Excerpts from His Hair Tells a Story
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